The Issue Of Infidelity Either On The Part Of The Husband Or The Wife

DEALING WITH CHEATING

Infidelity is a serious threat to the beauty of marriage. People have the misconception that it has come to stay. The general attitude is that “everybody is doing it”. This problem cuts accross race, color, state and nation. It 'been a great concern for me and I think there is an urgent need for action to save the society. Infidelity is not in line with the promise of marriage.

Married couple, promising to be faithful to each other, only to get rid of the promise sooner than later. Whether it is a one-night stand or a long relationship, the results are the same as your spouse's action has led to fear, doubt, mistrust, betrayal and anger. To the wounded, is a source of emotional instability. What makes the difference is the way to handle these emotional feelings.

It is quite understandable that catching your partner engaging in infidelity red hand can be very traumatic. But for the sake of their marriage and the future of the children of the relationship, this can be handled maturely in order to reduce its devastating effects.
No matter how terrible the situation, it is noteworthy that there is nothing new under the sky.

The average person could hold back tears on the face of unpleasant experience. I would advise for the tears to flow unhindered. Crying may be a healthy response because of course, your body would be difficult to endure such unpleasant development.

However, never let the situation degenerate into a "poor me 'attitude. That does not do you any good. Yes, due to cultural and ego factors, men often try to hide their feelings. But for the sake of your health, a man can cry if necessary.
So, go ahead and express your feelings to your spouse. Tell him/her how you feel. This is where positive communication is necessary. Verbally expressing your feelings is also a healthy way to process anger, provided they use "I" instead of "you". When you say, "You betrayed me" or "You took advantage of me" or "you do not love me", which will only generate negative reactions. And negative reactions do not lead to positive results.

I often say in jest telling couples instead of making an issue over a spilled milk, why not take hold of the hand of that "caught in adultery' partner, lead him/her home to have a nice time together and move on with life. Marriage is a thing so sweet and good to enjoy instead of turning yourself into a psychiatric patient in trivial matters. Statements like, "I feel betrayed" or "I feel hurt" or "I feel you do not love me", simply reveal your emotion. They are honest statements that communicate the depth of your pain. But please do not attack his/her personality as he or she may become defensive and put you at the receiving edge.

This will be continued............. watch out!!!